Couples Counselling 

A message from our founder and marriage & famiy  therapist: 

"I focused on couples therapy and counselling because our: happiness, quality of life, and satisfaction are tied to our primary relationships. I absolutely love working with couples. Not many therapists work primarily with couples or have specific training, where I have purposely pursued this area of counselling. I believe in what I do and truly want to help couples and families: communicate better, and increase their happiness with each other and overall quality of life.

I am trained in the most effective couples therapy modality: EFT. *As a Marriage and Family Therapist: I have completed all graduate-level courses required to be an associate member of CAMFT. www.camft.ca

I am certified in levels 1, 2, 3 in Emotionally Focused Therapy. Research studies have found that 70-75% of couples undergoing EFT successfully move from distress to recovery, and approximately 90% of couples show significant improvements.. Emotionally Focused Couples Therapy is a well-researched form of couples therapy used internationally to help couples achieve more connection, attunement, and satisfaction in their relationships." -Source: Psychology Today 

-Aimee Poole, founder Yellowfinch Counselling & Wellness Inc. & Marriage & Family Therapist

1. Is your relationship no longer feeling safe OR secure? 
2. Do you value your relationship and want to improve it, keep your bond strong, intimacy and connection?
3. Do you crave an emotional connection, love, or even a hug? 
4. Are you feeling lonely even though you are in a relationship?
5. Do you feel your relationship is lacking luster? Has intimacy decreased or is it not there at all?
6. Have you begun to sleep in separate beds, do separate activities, and live separate lives, is the distance between you increasing? 
7. Is the communication between you failing only ending in both of you walking away feeling hurt, angry, and disconnected?
8. Are you craving the couple you once were when you felt connected, excited to see each other, valued, appreciated, and heard?
9. Are you holding onto past hurts that never were healed?
10. Has resentment built and built maybe even moved to anger/frustration resulting in unresolved/hurt feelings between you?
11. Has there been betrayal, or broken trust that needs to be repaired?
12. Are you beginning to question if you should stay in your relationship and if it's worth the effort or if they are the one?
13. Do you not want your children to see you argue all the time or feel the tension between you?
14. Have you forgotten that you are a team and why you are together in the first place?
15. Is your mood, positivity, and overall self-esteem being affected negatively by your relationship?

WHO IS COUPLES COUNSELLING FOR:

Couples Counselling, is for anyone wanting better relationships. It can be sought for maintenance as well as preventative. It is not just when a couple is in crisis; it can be ongoing monthly sessions to consistently work on your relationship or weekly to bi-weekly sessions depending on what goals you have as a couple and what issues are presented.

YOU DON'T HAVE TO HAVE A MAJOR RUPTURE IN YOUR RELATIONSHIP TO COME TO COUPLES COUNSELING

You can come even when your relationship is going well or fairly well to just maintain your: understanding, happiness, and fulfillment in your relationship. Even if you feel you are doing quite well; why wait until there is a major rupture? As a partner; we can always benefit from learning how to be a better, more thoughtful, appreciative partner and team member.

I work with couples to decrease tension, and increase connection and a sense of emotional safety. Utilizing Emotionally Focused Therapy couples build a strong emotional base which can help them to withstand storms that may arise during their relationship. 90% of couples have significant improvements in their relationships after trying out emotionally focused couples therapy (Source: Psychology Today).

Situations and areas that I work in include but are not limited to:

• Communication Difficulties
• Emotional Connection & Intimacy
• Relationships that have morphed into roommates
• Time is focused on tasks and running household. vs the relationship or on each other
• Forgotten about making time for each other or can't even remember when the last date night was
• Growing Apart - loss of common interests or activities - connection is not there or where it once was
• Separation & Divorce - considering it or going through it
• Physical Intimacy - lacking or just not there
• Affair Recovery
• Blended Families
• Co-parenting
• Neurodiverse couples
• Mixed Agenda Couples

I am glad you’re here. A healthier and happier relationship is possible. I believe that close relationships are vital to human health and connectedness, our quality of life, and our happiness. I also believe if we help a relationship we help a family and a community. Most relationships are salvageable.

I am committed to confidentiality, never taking sides, and respecting each partner in the relationship. Couples report that online therapy sessions are helpful and effective. 

Areas I do not work in due to not having specific training or certifications (out of scope) include:  I do not take on couples clients whose focus is on: sex addiction, sex therapy, polyamory, open relationships, or existing domestic violence (IPV). If you are unsure of the interpretation of these areas OR if I work in a certain area please ask; I will let you know if it is within my scope of practice. When looking for a therapist be sure to ask if they specialize or have additional training in the area you wish to work on.

Couples/Marriage Counselling:

Your goal may be to restore your marriage or friendship. Perhaps you are both feeling loneliness but feel it's hard to say or talk about what you need or that you have indicated what you need but it falls on deaf ears. If it's years of distance, or perhaps trust is a challenge.

Discernment Counselling: Mixed Agenda Couple

Are you considering divorce or separation but unsure that’s the right path? Discernment Counselling offers the opportunity to pause, take a breath, & consider the long-term consequences.

Infidelity & Affairs

Despite the prevalence of infidelity, most people assume their partner will be faithful. So the discovery of infidelity is a severe, unexpected breach of commitment and trust. Infidelity recovery couples counselling is one way to work through this discovery.